When a little person’s autonomic nervous system is constantly under attack, s/he never gets a chance to set up a solid nervous system foundation of healthy self-regulation. This faulty circuitry lends to suffering of all sorts later in life.
You Need Healthy Aggression
As mentioned, humans share the same primal emotions as other animals in the wild: joy, surprise, fear, disgust, sadness and anger.
You can’t meditate away your basic primal life force emotions, nor would you want to. You need to access your anger and healthy aggression and not be afraid of it.
Fear of anger is the killer. Fear of your own power and rage will stop you from moving forward.
Remember, anger is just an emotion and it isn’t bad. Hurting others is. Aggression comes from the latin word, “Aggredi” which means to move forward, to attack, to understand, seize opportunity and/or attempt.
Anger—healthy, energy-rich anger and aggression—is the antidote to self-sabotaging behaviors.
When moving forward in any endeavor, be it for health, creating a new business, showing up for your loved ones or risking failure via a new creative pursuit, you need to have this “aggredi” energy readily available at your fingertips so you can keep going and never give up, even when it gets tough. Cause it will, right?
If you lack this internal pilot light and can’t feel that flame burning bright, it’s very easy to admit defeat, find ways to play small, not know your heart or speak your gut and continue to self-sabotage yourself into misery.
Understanding your biology, specifically your nervous system physiology and the stress response, plays a big part in your success, yet too often we focus solely on changing our behavior or thought process.
Unleashing Your Life Energy
So, how do you start to tune into your biology so you can unleash the healthy beast?
I wish it was something that was a quick fix. Or could be taken in pill form. But it isn’t. The steps to get started on this process are complex and intricate. But they work.
As I mentioned above,
Something all my clients have in common is difficulty, and often blatant inability or deep shame, when it comes to expressing the emotion of anger.
In your young life, if anger was either a) denied and seen as bad, or b) there was too much uncontrolled and abusive rage and violence, then it will take some time to build up the capacity to feel safe expressing anger.
You need a smart, slow and safe approach to unleashing this life energy.