If you feel damaged by a toxic relationship, as though you no longer know yourself, or even have a self…
If your last breakup left you feeling hopeless about your future…
If you feel like you haven’t fully recovered, even if your relationship ended many years ago…
Then you may have been harmed by a partner who has some of the pathological traits of narcissism, borderline or antisocial personality disorder or other damaging psychopathology.
SurviveTransformSoar.com takes a positive, proactive approach to helping you regain your self and your sense of possibility. We can:
1. Support you through the pain of the early withdrawal symptoms
2. Show you how to care for yourself in a healing chrysalis (cocoon)
3. Guide you to flourish in a new life that is even better than you had before (BTB4™)
My name is Dawn Aegle and I am glad you have found your way to SurviveTransformSoar.com. Our inbox magazine experts and I look forward to being part of your support team as you heal and grow from the trauma of a toxic relationship.
Because survival is not enough…
How To Heal Your Nervous System:
7 Ways to Be Your Own Medicine after a Toxic Relationship
Issue #54 | March 23, 2018
By Irene Lyon, MSC
Imperative in the process of recovering from a toxic relationship is learning to heal your nervous system. While several types of therapy can be invaluable (psychotherapy, somatic experiencing, EMDR and others), there is also much you can begin doing on your own, beginning with interoception.
Interoception is a long-lost skill in our Western cultures that involves learning to be present with your inner experiences. It is a sense beyond “the five senses” that helps you feel and understand what’s going on inside your body (physiologically). This provides invaluable information that can improve your awareness of the environment around you and aid you in decision-making.
Interoception underlies the seven steps below, which I believe to be essential for recovery from any kind of trauma—including that resulting from a long-term toxic relationship—and starting on a path of living longer, healthier and happier lives.
1 – Self-awareness & Awareness
1a. Self-awareness basics:
• Feel the pressure between you and the surface you are on (your butt on the chair; feet on the ground; back of your body against the floor if you are lying down etc.
• Let the ground support you, fully. In other words – notice if you are using extra muscles that you don’t need to be using. Are you holding in your belly, clenching your jaw or fists?
1b. Awareness basics:
• SEE. LOOK. LISTEN. (Also called orienting)
• Pause and notice your body pressure against the surface you are on WHILE seeing the world around you.