Issue #92 | December 14, 2018
By Rivka A. Edery, MSW, LCSW
A toxic relationship is painful—no doubt about that! We have been using The 12 Steps of AA to add a spiritual dimension to your recovery process. This year we have focused on Step Four—Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves—and you have worked on inventorying your resentments, fears, sex conduct and harms done to others.
If you have not completed the exercises presented in June and September and feel ready to do so, I encourage you to link back and revisit them.
The Fourth Step has the power to change lives, because if you can face the pain and uncover your authentic self - (part or whole which may have gone underground as protection), you can use your pain as a tool for change.
The question here is how well do you want to get?
There are people who can give love, but reject receiving it, because they really do not want the connection. If you are one of those people, getting your resentments and anger out on paper will accurately reveal in what areas your growth awaits you.
There are those people who discover through their Fourth Step Inventory that they have been carrying around a hatred for a particular person, institution or principles. If that applies to you, you will discover that ... Read More