When you are finished, see if you notice any patterns. For example, you may notice that with each quality you listed in the “not have” column, you were once hurt in this way.
Perhaps you are still being hurt by such qualities, either from yourself or from someone else. In the “does have” column, you may notice that you are deeply touched by these qualities, either by having them yourself or through other people. (Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide, pg. 121, Edery, R. 2013)
As you complete this exercise, do you notice feelings of gratitude arising? Can you express those directly to a Higher Power, whether within yourself or outside?
You will find that your openness will come and go. However, as long as you remain on your personal spiritual path, a little bit of faith is enough to bring you back. When you feel like giving up, remember that you are wired for growth and change (neuro-plasticity).
By remaining honest, open and willing (H.O.W), you will be in the best position to change any negative and false beliefs about your Higher Power, yourself and other people.
Good luck on your healing journey…and trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.