The key is to start noticing how and when your body’s stress responses (fight, flight, freeze) start to kick in. Next, make a conscious decision to feel those sensations and bodily responses (increased heart rate for fight/flight; checking out and dissociating for freeze) and allow them to happen. Then, come down (go back to #3: “Befriend your pain and stop conquering fear”).
WARNING: I make this sound easy, don’t I? It isn’t always that simple to just notice these things, feel them and let them pass.
5 – Take off your mask & be the change
Be yourself. As simple as this might sound, when we can start to take off some of the layers that we’ve built upon ourselves, we start to find a little more freedom and liberation. Our life force starts to shine through.
This is not something that can be done overnight, but it does change when we make a conscious decision to watch the habits and behaviors we have that aren’t really us. Just this act of being more true to yourself will do wonders, not just for you, but for the world as a whole.
6 – Tap into the power of “negative” emotions
I know, this is an odd one. It doesn’t mean being pessimistic or a party pooper. It means feeling into what is real and true in your environment and surrounding world.
For example, if someone you know was just diagnosed with a life-threatening illness, allow the grief and sadness (maybe even anger) to be felt and expressed, rather than pushing down those emotions and pretending everything is “OK.” Because it’s not.
(By the way, there’s no such thing as a negative emotion. We’ve just classified them like this and it’s one of the reasons we struggle so much with mental and physical health.)